the glue

when gommy and vincent were little, they were best friends. they'd wrestle, cuddle...all sorts of stuff. vincent never had any issue making gommy laugh.

over time that relationship changed a bit. gommy became a little more serious and a little less enchanted by brothers jokes. and vincent got more interested in big boy toys, etc. if you ask vincent who his best friend is, he'll still say gommy...but things changed.

but what we've realized lately is that didi pants is the glue of our family and the glue of those brothers. somehow, now more than ever, i find all three in the same place...whether that's in the living room or randomly hanging out together on the treadmill. in a strange and beautiful way this little girl has brought balance to the force of her brothers

and what's great about it is that she's got the most beautiful relationship with the both of them. vincent adores her. would do anything to make her laugh. wants to cuddle and wrestle and throw pillows on her and she just laughs and goes a long with whatever he does. if he's running around the house she's on all fours with a smile on her face trying to keep up. he can do no wrong in her eyes.

and for gommy...she's the only person in our house that knows gommy just as he is. vincent has seen gommy as a baby with limitless potential...then as a toddler who didnt quite toddle and doesnt talk (at least not in the traditional sense). d and i see gommy not only for who he is, but for who he tries to be...we see present and future, ability and dreams. but diya couldnt care less about any of that. she knows gommy as gommy. she doesnt care about what he could be or what he will be. she knows him only as he is. it's the purest thing i've ever seen. 

we often treat gommy with kid gloves. if he's fussy we try and console him, if he's getting frustrated we go through a complex thought process of trying to balance out enabling vs helping. not didi though. if gommy has something she wants, she'll pull his hair to get it. if gommy is fussy, she doesnt care...she'll still climb all over him and bother him and then cuddle up to him. why? because no matter what he's her brother and he is who he is. this is her beautiful normal and there's no other expectations. 

i dont know if i'm explaining this well because it's even hard for me to understand. i guess the best way to phrase it is that the love diya has for her brothers is unconditional and pure. she's 8 months old and has already taught us so much about what true love means. 

who would have thought that the newest member of the singh crew would turn out to be the glue.